I can’t take my mind off of you: Love, Obsession, and Possession.

As a Christian woman, I understand the value of love. It is a commandment. I must love. I must love my neighbors and I must love my enemies.

What happens when love and affection crosses the line into obsession and possessive behavior?

As an eligible bachelorette, I know my strengths, and yet, I have many weaknesses.

I love like Christ, but, there are times I can go too far. Times I want to possess a man. Times I want to harm or exert power over a man. Times, I am obsessed with a man.

This is a trait and facet of myself I have often felt ashamed of and shamed for. Women are often discouraged from pursuing men. I understand why that is discouraged.

Women are easily labeled “thirsty” or “desperate” for having affection toward a man.

I’ve thought long and hard about my obsessive and possessive tendencies. These are part of me and I acknowledge them. I have boundaries. I know not to cause harm to another. Yet, I believe there is someone out there who will love and accept these very aspects of me.

Ashley

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